" He still wo n’t admit that he constrain the lid on determination . He suggested we go to man and wife counseling , but I refused . There is no point . "
This has to be the most unique relationship story I’ve ever come across on theAITA subreddit, and it took me on a rollercoaster ride.
A user,DirectionProper9461, is questioning her recent decision to file for divorce from her husband, who repeatedly tightened all of the jar lids in their kitchen to the point that she could never open anything.
Here’s the fullstory: “His over tightening jar lids have been an issue since he was just visiting at my house when we were dating. First, it started with just things he used, and then over time, it became every damn glass jar with a metal lid. He’d tighten them so much I couldn’t open them without assistance.”
" It was n’t a immense deal if he was there , but if I was alone , it was so annoying . More times than I can calculate , I ’ve opened a fresh shock of something because I could n’t get the jar unfastened . "
“It’s been a recurring cycle over the past five years. It’s just a thing that would escalate until I had a major meltdown and freaked out, screaming, frustrated, and seemingly crazy because it’s just a lid. Then, it would get better for a while, and then it would slowly become an issue again. It was just getting worse and worse until I reached a breaking point again. Sometimes, I literally feel insane for being so upset over jar lids.”
" He initially claimed that he did it to ' keep food fresh ' . After many argument about it , I insisted that I do n’t believe it keeps anything fresh , and even if it does make things last longer , I do n’t care if it stand for I ca n’t eat my freaking intellectual nourishment when I want . I ’ll just supervene upon thing that go forged because they are closed usually . Then the excuse was that ' it ’s a riding habit . ' "
(Now here’s where the story takes a HARD left turn.)
“So, about a month ago, my husband had a family emergency and had to travel out of state for 10 days. The first day he’s gone, I discover a jar I can’t open. I was annoyed and was going to the store to buy new pickles when the neighbor said hi and to let him know if I needed anything while he was out of town.”
" I aver wait here and get the jolt , which he open up . The next 24-hour interval , I ascertain him outdoors and take him to open up another jarful . He offered to come open up all the jars . I hold , and he total in , and he pass away to the electric refrigerator and open all the jars except 2 , which he could n’t spread . "
“I thanked him profusely and told him I’d bake some of his favorite cookies later in the week. He laughed and said it was no big deal, and after confirming that I wouldn’t be upset if the remaining two jars were destroyed in his attempt to open them, he took them home to his garage to open them one way or another.”
" He said that he ’s heard me scream about over - tighten jar lids a few prison term over the years , and he ’s really pondered if I was crazy or if my husband was really over - fasten the jar lid . "
“He said you know this was intentional. It was every jar, and I’m sure he doesn’t regularly use hot pepper paste or mango puree or any of your other fancy cooking stuff. Then he held up the two jars he couldn’t open and said, ‘I don’t know why he’s doing it, but it wasn’t an accident.'”
" After he left , I interlock the door , sat on my kitchen floor , and cried . Then , I feel hot and airheaded . I cat in the trash can . My chest hurt . It crossed my judgement that I might be ingest a heart attack . I thought about visit an ambulance but sat back on my kitchen floor instead . "
“Later, the neighbor came back with the opened jar of hot fudge and apologized that he couldn’t save the figs. He said he broke the jar, trying to get it open. He also apologized for what he said about my husband doing it on purpose. I assured him it was okay.”
" I could n’t kip that dark . Tossed and turn all night . I called out of work . By 10 ante meridiem , I realized that I could n’t remain marital any longer , and I made an appointment with a lawyer for the next day . "
“There are literally no other issues, no cheating, no abuse, we had a good sex life, both have good jobs, nice house, no financial issues. He was absolutely blindsided when he came home, and I told him I wanted a divorce.”
" He still wo n’t intromit that he tighten the lids on purpose . He indicate we go to man and wife counsel , but I resist . There is no point . I just literally ca n’t get past the god damned jar eyelid . I still experience a short bit crazy about that . I have no idea why he would fasten every jounce lid so tightly that I could n’t unfold it . He has collapse me no reason . He still wo n’t even take on that he did it on intention . But the hot pepper paste is in the back of the fridge . I use it only when I make Indian food . It ’s behind other thing . He ’s never used it . It ’s nothing you could put in nutrient without cooking it . The pepper paste could not have been an stroke . It could n’t . Maybe he put mango puree on his toast or in his oatmeal , but the pepper library paste could n’t have been an accident . "
“That’s what my life comes down to. I’m getting a divorce because the lid of my hot pepper paste was over-tightened. If it had been every jar except that one, I could try. I could have a sliver of doubt. I could do something else, but I just can’t get past the hot pepper paste. Most of our friends and families either think I’m crazy or an asshole. What do you think?”
" Not the asshole . Your husband has drop five year deliberately making your biography hard in tiny way and then lying to your expression to make you think you are mad , " userOpen - Incident_3601wrote .
“No, you’re not getting a divorce because of jar lids; you’re getting a divorce because your husband is gaslighting you for sport,” userGarden_gnome1609agreed.
" OP , before you move out , purchase his favorite jar of foods and ace mucilage all the lid , " userJayNowwrote .
This person shared a similar experience with their ex-husband:
" My ex-husband told me he just did n’t get wind our two sister when they woke at night . Too well-worn , just did n’t hear them . I trust him . When the younger nestling was 3 , the ex separate me he ’d lie ! Smiled about it . ' I know you ’d get up ! Of naturally , I hear every time . ' Divorced him six month later , " userluckyartiewrote .
Other users completely disagreed and felt the original poster was being a “narcissist.”
" OP should buy a lid - gripper and go to counsel to get her narcism under dominance . Divorce your man so he can discover someone who ’s not going to divorce them over fucking lids,“Feisty_Efficiency778wrote .
“Damn, women will divorce over anything, you can have a perfect life, but he over-tightened the jars, and it is ground for divorce. She could go on Amazon and buy a jar opener, but she opted for divorce,” userOwn-Tank5998.
