annihilating .
Sometimes you fall in love with a person because of who they pretend to be, not truly who they are. In some horrible cases, their mask doesn’t slip, and the “real” them doesn’t appear until after you’ve married them.
Perhaps you’d never lived with your partner before marriage, and once the honeymoon phase was over, you quickly realized sharing a space with them full-time was nothing like a couple of sleepovers a week. They began treating you like their maid and left horrible messes wherever they went. When you asked why they stopped picking up after themselves like when you dated, they said, “I was trying to get laid. Now, I don’t have to impress you.” Your heart sank as you realized the person you married was different from the person you dated.
Maybe you questioned everything about your partner and their past when it was accidentally revealed that they were married for three years before you knew them. Not only did they tell you they’d never been married, they also lied about being single when you met! They were technically still married, although going through the beginning stages of separation, when you two started dating. You’re not sure you’ll ever be able to fully trust them again.
Or, maybe your brand-new husband sat you down merely a few days after your honeymoon and told you he was having a baby with another woman. He’d slept with a coworker while you two were engaged and stressed with wedding planning, and now she was due in less than two months. Your heart shattered into a million pieces as you began pondering a divorce, not even two weeks after saying “I do.”
Devastating.
