" We divorced in less than a year . There was a day he separate me he would always get it on his ex-wife - married woman . "
Weaskedpeople of theBuzzFeed Communitywhy they got divorced after being married for less than a year. The stories they shared were quite surprising. Here’s what they had to say:
1.“I was in the hospital having a miscarriage, and he went out on the town with another woman. Our marriage lasted nine months.”
— Anonymous
2.“We were married for six months. My cousin was getting married, but he couldn’t get off work to go with me. Not a huge deal. When I got home, I called his work to let him know I was back, and they told me he had requested off to go to a family wedding. I called his cell, and a girl answered. I moved out that night before he got home, and now he’s married to that girl.”
3.“I found paperwork in our filing cabinet from the local university health clinic…showing positive results for him having herpes and chlamydia, proving he was cheating on me. We were married seven months!”
4.“The literal next day, after we got married, he told me he was doing hard drugs the whole time of our relationship prior to marrying. He said he didn’t want to tell me before we married because he knew I wouldn’t marry him. He’d wait till I was in bed to get high. I had never been around drugs, so I did not know the signs. I lost all respect and love for him in that instant for lying to me. It took me a few months to tell my parents, but once I did, they were so supportive and told me to come home.”
5.“His bad habits amplified. What little he contributed before the marriage disappeared after. The final straw, though, was when he was hospitalized for liver failure. I waited to marry him until he was on the wagon, only to discover a few months into the marriage, he had been drinking the whole time, and drinking excessively enough that his liver started failing. I filed for separation shortly after.”
6.“We dated for five years before marrying. I moved to the city where he lived and gave up the life I had created. I was starting over with the intention of marrying this man and starting a family. These were things we discussed before marriage. He decided one day out of the blue that he didn’t want kids anymore. I always knew I wanted them. So I took a chance to find someone new who wanted a family. Best decision I’ve ever made. When I look back, I realize there were many red flags, but that was an absolute deal breaker. I now have two kids, and their dad is amazing.”
7.“Everything was great when we were dating (we were long-distance for a bit). Then we got married, and he lost interest in sex. I moved cities for him, and he blamed me for not being ‘worth it’ anymore. I gave it three months, then walked out.”
8.“He was really messy. He would leave the bathroom after a shower and leave water all over the sink and floor, and use and dirtied almost all the towels, and then leave them on the floor.”
9.“My ex-husband’s sister kept fighting with him, saying she didn’t want him to love me. She tried to run away from home the night before the wedding to stop the wedding. I should have paid attention to that warning sign and not gone through with it.”
10.“I overheard a conversation my ex-husband was having with his friend. He said he only married me for my money and felt no love.”
11.“I tried to call off the wedding three weeks beforehand. He addressed all of my concerns, so I went through with it, though I was not a happy bride. It turns out everything he said during the three-hour conversation was a lie. Also, from the wedding day, he changed—or more accurately, he became his true self. The transformation was stunning, not in a good way. The honeymoon was awful after he sustained an injury on the first day, requiring two separate trips to the ER. Lastly, my children did not get along with him when he moved in with us. It was uncomfortable and unhappy for all of us. I asked him to leave after two months, knowing it would never work with more time or effort, and that I didn’t want to go through with the marriage. I wish I had been true to myself and brave enough to cancel the wedding in the first place.”
12.“He was so nice and lovable when we were dating, but after our first night together (my last one being a virgin), he would do things like demand, not ask, me to iron a shirt for him and would get mad for me not having it ready after he quickly showered.”
13.“I caught her in bed with her sister doing the nasty with a strap-on. I noped my way right out of there.”
14.“We divorced in less than a year. There was a day he told me he would always love his ex-wife.”
15.“We had dated for two years before he proposed. Everything was fine and easy until right after we got married and he got a job at a fancy country club. Suddenly he thought he was ‘one of them’ and started sleeping with one of the women he worked for. I suspected something was up, but I let it go. Less than four months after we got married, he just stopped coming home. He wouldn’t answer my phone calls, ignored my texts, and stopped speaking to me. We were divorced less than a year after we got married.”
16.“I rushed into my first marriage. I had gotten pregnant with another guy’s baby, but he wasn’t at all interested in being a parent. He left, but a mutual friend of ours stepped in. I thought he was my knight in shining armor. He volunteered to be there for me and my baby. We got married shortly after my son was born, but it quickly became apparent that he didn’t understand all the life changes that come about from kids and marriage. We split up after three months.”
17.“She waited until we were married to steal my identity and max out a bunch of credit cards that were mailed to our shared address.”
18.And finally, “We were together for five years before getting married. I never realized how much I did for him and us and how little he contributed. Four months after we married, I needed emergency bowel surgery. I was in the hospital for two weeks. He didn’t visit me once. He complained about needing to pick me up from the hospital when I was discharged. While I was recovering, he still expected me to clean and cook for him (even though I was on strict weight restrictions and a liquid diet). I couldn’t imagine having to take care of a man-child on top of any children we might have had in the future. I filed for divorce six months after getting married.”
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