I fear my entire mind has been flipped upside down .

Unsolicited advice is all over the place. Everywhere you look, there’s a person ready to feed you their perspective, often by way of an overused proverb. It’s all with good intent, of course, but hearing the same things over and over again can get…annoying.

1.“Time heals all wounds.”

— SageMerkabah

" I likeHemingway ’s quotebetter : ' The human beings breaks everyone and afterward many are unassailable at the confused places . ' "

— everything_is_holy

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2.“People say don’t go to bed mad, but at a certain point you’re both just tired and probably won’t even care about the argument in the morning.”

— Rrmack

" Yeah a lot of arguments in my life have been purpose by sleeping it off . "

— Adthay

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3.“The whole ‘YOLO’ thing kinda works both ways. People use it as an excuse to take risks and do stupid shit, but if you only live once, why would you risk fucking your only life up to do something stupid?”

— yuckscott

4."‘Always put yourself first.’ I think it’s leading to a shitty, individualistic society which people then blame for their problems, and that reinforces a negative spiral."

" patently , it ’s situational , but I imagine place yourself first should n’t be automatic advice and should actually be looked down upon a heap more often . "

— Pale - Carrot-8098

5."‘There’s no such thing as a stupid question.’ There are stupid questions, but I will ask it anyway so I don’t make a stupid mistake."

— TheJoshArchives

" ' It is good to necessitate a question and seem dumb for a arcminute , than to make a mistake and be in reality dumb about it . ' Not quite the exact locution , but this version was said to me by one of former gaffer , and it stuck . "

— alabardios

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6.“Blood is thicker than water.”

— BackgroundPlay562

" It ’s so obtuse — it encourages staying with your family even if your family sucks . "

— PizzaOk595

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7."‘If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.’ Turns out that’s a gold-class ticket to becoming non-confrontational and prone to bullying."

" resist your ground . Not everyone in the world is there to be your admirer . It ’s easier to present the idea that you say something too harsh , rather than condole with yourself for let someone get away with hurt you . "

— PepsiMaxHoe

8."‘Happy wife, happy life.’ Don’t sacrifice your own happiness in an attempt to satisfy someone else."

" Not an exculpation to be a jerk , though . "

— DestinysParent

9."‘No regrets.’ I think acknowledging mistakes is important for learning."

— Sufficient_Dish2350

10.“It is what it is.”

— SnooPandas3956

" I have never empathise that phrase and it beat back me brainsick . I guess I would favor something more logical , like , ' Just be with it being mess up . ' "

— pukatorp64

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11."‘Try again,’ depending on the context. Sometimes, it’s best to abandon something that you know isn’t your destiny."

— LayJaly

12.“Forgive and forget. I can forgive to an extent, but forgetting transgressions leads you to be vulnerable to them happening again.”

— ADHme _

" Even forgiveness is overrated . "

— beandip111

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13."‘Don’t talk politics or religion to keep the peace.’ I think that this idea has been a big reason that we’ve gotten to the point that we actually cannot talk politics or religion. Some of the best conversations I’ve had were with people I disagreed with, but we were both respectful and even if we didn’t completely convince each other we did learn some stuff."

" So rather of talking material out and trying to learn something about each other , we just stay in our corners and thrust revilement over the keyboards . "

— Aggravating - Wheel738

14."‘Always give 110%.’ You will burn out. 110% of what you will be able to do becomes half of what you could do."

— Maeriel80

" The trick is a hearty 80 % . Enough to do well and not be incapable , but you have another 20 % to use when needed . "

— other_usernames_gone

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15."‘It takes a village.’ If the village was limited to a single idiot it wouldn’t be as bad, but the last thing I need is a bunch of morons ‘helping’ by teaching my kids to get high, not trust doctors, and that the Earth is flat."

— m1stak3

16.“Have kids so you don’t regret not having them.”

— EzAeMy

" This is essentially said to guilty conscience - trip . "

— DataDorkee

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17.And similarly: “‘There’s never a right time to have kids, you just have to do it.’ Ummm…what about until you are mentally and financially stable…or don’t have them at all?”

— cdifff

— TwinFrogs

" heart were n’t made for thinking . Feelings do n’t guide logic and rationale . They misguide it . They are only good for inform you of what you require . You brain is your man for fancy out how to actually get it . "

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— Coldin228

19."‘If you’re a guy with thinning hair, just shave your head bald.’ This is really bad advice for lots of guys. Not everybody has a head shape that suits being bald. Lots of guys actually look better, and often younger, with even some hair on their head."

" Sometimes I think it ’s just other bald guy who are constantly assay to win over more guys to become bald-pated so they do n’t stand out . "

— MattHooper1975

20."‘When someone dies, they are in a better place.'" Bullshit, they were alive and busy, now they don’t exist."

21.“I disagree with the advice to save as much money as possible while you’re young. I have quite a few friends that max out IRAs and 401K every year, which is awesome, but it leaves them minimal money to…live.”

" Do n’t get me ill-timed , I get as much as I can from my company ’s compeer and take advantage of rollover bonus , and I do save , but I also live in the now . I require to be able to enjoy things while I ’m young and able-bodied , such as vacation with my kids . "

— AkuraPiety

22.“The ‘Golden Rule’: Treat others the way you want to be treated. You are not everyone, and everyone is not you. Treat others the way THEY want to be treated.”

— aTribeCalledLex

23."‘Don’t talk about philosophy during the first Hinge date.’ If you’re a nerd, be a nerd!"

" They ’re gon na find out sooner or later , or it ’s not gon na work out anyway . "

— AproPoe001

24.“Trust your intuition.”

— tristesse_blanche

" As an dying catastrophizer who tries very firmly not to be , this advice has never run 🥲 "

— SilentMode - On

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25."‘If he wanted to, he would’ is up there, because it encourages (usually) women to just be passive. Also, it dismisses men who feel anxiety, nerves, or have genuine things stopping them. If you flip it and say ‘If you wanted to, you would,’ often there’s suddenly so much nuance."

" It ’s okay to convey what you want , dame ! Do n’t just wait for the guy to initiate everything . "

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