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Every generation tries to parent differently to the one before. But how different is too different? We recently asked older people in theBuzzFeed Communityto share themodern parenting trendsthat completely confuse them. Here’s what they had to say…

1.Throwing over-the-top birthday parties.

2.Being overprotective.

3.But not protective enough with social media.

4.Permissive parenting.

5.Gender reveals.

6.Allowing devices.

7.Doing double duty working from home.

8.Co-sleeping.

9.Tracking everything.

10.Not letting kids “lose.”

11.Overly “unique” names.

12.Swearing.

13.Fighting their battles for them.

14.Over-scheduling.

15.Anti-sunscreen parents.

16.Sad beige aesthetics.

take down : Responses have been edit for length / clarity .

Three people celebrate a child's birthday with a large cake. The room is decorated with pastels, balloons, and teddy bears

Child wearing a bubble wrap suit and helmet stands in front of a door, arms outstretched, smiling

Child making a funny face while holding a fork with a piece of broccoli, sitting at a table with a decorative plate

People in a forest celebrate with balloons and a blue smoke bomb, suggesting a gender reveal or celebration event

Five teens sit on a wooden deck, each using a smartphone or tablet. They wear casual clothes and headphones, engaged with their devices

Man sipping coffee works on laptop with child sitting next to him at a kitchen table, looking at the screen. Bowl and fruit on table

Family of four sleeping peacefully in bed, dressed in pajamas

A woman sits on a sofa, looking at her phone while holding a baby on her lap, who is lying on a pillow

Child in striped shirt holding a smiley face badge on their chest, looking down at it thoughtfully

Baby lying on a white blanket wearing a onesie, with three blank "Hello, my name is" stickers on their chest

Glass jar labeled "Swearing Jar" containing a visible 20-note inside

A woman and child sit at a table speaking with another woman, possibly a teacher, in a classroom setting

Child in polo shirt watches adult writing in a calendar at a kitchen counter. A glass of juice and a fruit bowl are nearby

Sunburned shoulder with clear tan lines from a sleeveless top

Child in a cozy nursery tending to a doll in a cradle, with shelves, toys, and decor around