" My X - wife was very covert about it . She had spent years sneaking around , but then , she tell her slight sister about it . I found out everything . "
Note : Some responses were get out fromthisReddit thread byu / angrycook .
1.“My ex-husband (who cheated on me) texted me out of the blue, told me he just met this woman at a party, and she had pictures and texts with my current husband. I didn’t believe him until she sent me screenshots of their Snaps; they had sex in our house a few weeks before and had texted an hour before that about how much they missed each other.”
" It was really embarrassing to come up out that way . "
— pannz1
2.“I woke up in the middle of the night to him laying in bed beside you getting off to another woman’s naked pics he begged her to send! I still have screenshots of those messages.”
— cb _ _
3.“She didn’t know the number of our landline, but she was in IT and tracked it down. So, the night he promised he’d leave me to move in with her, he didn’t, and she called in tears. I just let her talk and talk and talk, debunked the lies he told her, and made sympathetic noises. It helped a lot in my plans for his welcome home, which was quite painful for him.”
— nancya41ee03b7e
4.“I had a sneaking suspicion that my ex was emotionally cheating or cyber cheating; I consider this cheating because of how it ended up — he married her and brought her over. I was led to believe a different timeline, but I always had a sneaking suspicion that it was a lot longer. I didn’t find this out from him; that would have been the kind thing to do, and that’s not him since he doesn’t truly care about anyone else but himself. I didn’t find it out from digging up dirty laundry, but rather, my son who innocently was just talking to me.”
" It was n’t probe or even remotely ask because I did n’t handle enough , but he just says when they met , which , allot to my math , puts it while we were married and not long after we had our Word . Who knows if she was the only one , though , or if he did n’t really wander before that ? It changed everything that I thought I have it off . The hardest part is that he always accused me of being paranoid and other verbally abusive things , but this just proved the whole time that I was correct , but adjudicate to rewire my mind to not think so negatively about myself or the things he made me believe about myself was the hardest matter . "
— rk2snapsnbaggachipz
5.“After almost 20 years together, several miscarriages, and a wonderful miracle toddler, my husband started acting shady. Suddenly, he was adamant we would not join him on business trips. After the fourth trip, I got in his phone after mediocre makeup sex only to discover he’d been sleeping with a sex worker for our child’s entire life. He took out almost $70,000 in loans and credit cards, took money from his mother monthly, and bought over $5,000 in gifts for her. When I confronted him, it was lie after lie.”
" When I reached out to her , she said he told her I died generate nascency . She also got significant , and he showered her with maternity and baby presents for their child . She ’s half his age , and the timing figure out out utterly to be his kid . "
— exmrsv
6.“Not me, but I came home one day to find my mother had cried and was staring at her husband’s laptop monitor without even paying attention to me. He had left for work in a rush and left his laptop on with all his conversations with a woman on another continent. They had never met in reality, but he had already sent her lewd pics, videos, and money.”
" That ’s the day his whole front crumbled;his narcissistic personality disorder finally add up entirely to light source , and everything click . He can rot in hell for all we care now . "
— phandabox
7.“My ex-husband didn’t clear his internet history. I made up a fake dating profile and showed up for a date with him while he was ‘working on our marriage.'”
— astridwrightc
8.“I knew for sure my ex-wife was cheating on me when she was out of state ‘taking care of her sick father’ (who really was sick, mind you), and her aunt called me looking for her after her dad collapsed onto the floor for half a day while my ex went out to sleep with her new boyfriend in a motel two hours away.”
— None
9.“I suspected it earlier, but nothing was solid, so I never brought it up. But he didn’t realize that the Apple devices got synced together, and one day, I was using one of the devices for something, and messages started popping up in real-time. I got to read their conversation as it was happening and past messages. It was gut-wrenching because neither of them cared. If I remember correctly, they were talking about a past hookup and how I had no clue, and his response was ‘YOLO.'”
" I face him about it that night . He pray and pleaded for me to stay . endeavor to convince me they never actually hooked up . try out to convince me it was just a big mistake on his part . Tried to convince me that I mattered more than her . But in the closing , I know I could never stay . How could I stay with someone who deoxidise long - term cheating on his better half to ' YOLO ? ' All the mendicancy and pleading were empty , and I knew it . I felt sick for a farseeing metre . Moved out . sire therapy . I was piteous , really miserable . But honestly , I was much happier after get out and getting help . And I ’ve been happier ever since . "
— raptorsarepteryble
10.“I was with a woman for seven years (married) and had a daughter with her. It was our kid’s birthday, and she received a phone call from someone. She played it off as the wrong number. Twenty minutes later, she informs me that she’s having an emotional affair. I ask, ‘Like on the internet?’ And she replies, ‘No, in person.’ I respond, ‘Have you slept with them?’ She said, ‘Yes.’ The phone call was from the guy’s wife…telling her she was dropping him off at our place and she’d better tell me. Turns out, they had been having an affair for six months.”
" She basically had no pegleg to stand on . arrogate ill-usage and attempt to sell everything in the dwelling house after I was turf out ( United States Army ’s nerveless - off plan ) . After the dust cleared , I dropped a bunch of weight , start out locomote the cosmos , and took my daughter to places I never imagined . She hat me for it . She ’s still with him , and they both are hateful and miserable . I call back my life history was over then . Turns out , it had just begun . "
— surfryhder
11.“He felt pretty guilty, so he became less and less covert about it. It just sort of slowly became apparent. His cheating wasn’t just sex; it was a relationship. He was buying her gifts, taking her out, fixing her car, etc. So, as he got more into it, he was obviously spending more time away from home. I am not suspicious or naturally jealous, so I initially thought they were just friends. He finally told me he wanted a divorce, still not admitting that it was an affair and insisting they were only friends. I asked him for three months of counseling before deciding whether to split up.”
" He fit but did n’t put in much effort as he was already one pes out the door . I could n’t suffer to be in that planetary house with him anymore , so I found a cute little situation to rent on Craigslist and moved out . I took the cat with me , and she and I put up a menage together and got on with our lives . It was a tough time in my life , but I ’m really grateful for the direction my life took after that . I had n’t realized how much that relationship held me back from doing and being what I wanted . "
— dorky2
12.“She said she had to go down to visit her mom. She never came back. Turns out, she didn’t visit her mom. It’s all good now, though; I’m way happier since that all happened!”
— bhemblem
13.“Came home to do laundry in the middle of the day (student schedule) and found a guy in his boxers in my kitchen. I wasn’t surprised, but it still hurt. I moved out and got remarried to someone who gives a damn. She’s still looking for ‘mister right.’ From what my kids say, that guy is still around from time to time.”
" I ’m reasonably sure she pay off the short end of the situation . "
— djtravels
14.“My ex-wife was very covert about it. She had spent years sneaking around behind her parents with me when we first met. Regardless, I trusted her; she was my wife, and it’s not much of a marriage without trust. She made one fatal mistake, though — she told her little sister about it. The problem for her is her little sister liked me and hated her (not that she realized/knew her sister hated her). So, she came and told me everything.”
" I cast away her out of the house and left her . A really awed elbow room to cease a 10 - year marriage . "
— LordAziDahaka
15.“I kinda knew something was going on, and then my close friends had a pseudo intervention to let me know I was in a broken relationship. I went and found the guy and talked to him for confirmation. After that, I left and kinda disappeared for a little over a year.”
" I do n’t think I even talked with anyone over that catamenia . I just spend a lot of time mull over on who I became through that relationship and then spent much more re - establishing some sense of self - worth . "
— zombiebane
16.“We were together for 10 years and married for two. I flew home for a week to visit family and returned to him saying he realized he didn’t miss me and wanted to move out. No prior fighting, no issues, no signs at all. He initially said he didn’t know what he wanted in his life, but he needs space to figure things out and that he’ll move back home once he figures it out.”
" I found him texting a married co - proletarian while pack , and I know correctly there . They had been ' visit ' for calendar month — apparently , as booster . He moved out . She left her husband and kids two months later , and I found out she was fraught . I filed for divorce and moved far , far , far aside . I do n’t be intimate if they are still together , married , or what the situation is ; it hurts to be betrayed so callously . "
And finally….
17.“My husband started a new job. A few months in, he started acting differently. I didn’t think anything of it. He started hanging out with work friends after work. Cool. I wanted him to have more of a social life. It got to the point that he constantly texted coworkers and went out about once a week. In my not proudest moment, I looked at his Facebook messaging. I had never violated his privacy like that before, and sometimes, I wish I hadn’t. He had been seeing a coworker for months. I was pregnant. It was a giant f**king mess.”
" We ’ve mostly got everything worked out , but it still hurts even though it ’s been , what , three years now ? "
— thedrawingroom
Note : Some response have been edited for duration and/or clarity .
