" I realise at that moment he had n’t called for me . He just wanted to talk about himself and knew I ’d answer because it was my birthday . "
1.“Inability to take accountability or apologize for actions or behavior.”
2.“Whenever they talk, they’re either inflating their self-image and building themselves up or putting another person down and making fun of them (can be subtle).”
— Background - Egg2137
" I know someone whose entire identity is just humble bragging about their accomplishments . They do it to subtly compete with the people around them . It ’s so stressful to interact with them because it ’s like everything I say , they give out this uncanny airy laugh , and then one - up me by assure me they ’ve done that thing , and not only have they been doing that matter longer than me , but they are the best at it . Any clock time you share an accomplishment , they redirect the conversation to themselves and their good fortune EVERY fourth dimension . "
— AtomicAsh207
3.“Demanding rather than asking and then being appalled and enraged when the person they’re demanding something from doesn’t cave. It’s wild that full-grown adults will expect everything to be catered to them.”
— thezombiejedi
4.“They feel more like a black hole than a person. Doesn’t really matter how much you ‘pour in.’ It’s never enough. If I catch myself feeling like I’m walking on eggshells or tip-toeing around someone almost all the time in order to avoid an interaction feeling ‘ruined,’ it’s usually a good sign I should put some distance in.”
5.“They take offense when you do or say, or even enjoy something they don’t like. I’m talking specifically about a narcissistic parent. You must live your life in the way THEY envision for you, and if you don’t, you are punished, belittled, and ignored.”
— TemperatureTop246
" YES ! This was one of the craziest thing I experienced with a narcissistic family appendage . There ’s a hobby I like doing , and she did n’t like that I did it , and keep back trying to talk me out of doing it any longer . Funny matter is , some other fellowship member did something very alike to it . As far as I have intercourse , she did n’t bother them about it ; if she did , I did n’t listen anything . Why is it hunky-dory for other masses ( including kinfolk members ) to do it but not me ? ! Makes no fucking sentiency and it pisses me off . "
— idratherchangemyold1
6.“Narcissistic people are almost always very charming in public. So it’s not easy to spot unless you live with one.”
— Inandout_oflimbo
" Yes , but if you ’ve been around enough such mass , it becomes a little easy to spot . The queerly intense eye physical contact , the insincere congratulations , the way so many responses seem tailored to you rather than authentic expressions of their personal ego — like spotting a sales tar , essentially . You ’ve been in the business organisation for long , you experience when you ’re being pitched , even subtly . Backhandedly . In a foresighted game . "
— Lattice - shadow
7.“They never ask anyone a single question, just endless monologue.”
8.“Not being able to take the slightest form of criticism.”
— Puzzleheaded - Rub8533
" Or to be more specific , they interpret good constructive unfavorable judgment as a personal approach . "
— vivnsam
9.“Someone who vents everything about their life but cannot provide the smallest ounce of support.”
— MarvelCheeks
" A former friend was like this . Everything was a drama for them , even the tiniest thing . It was actually very draining to have to listen to , and you ’re good , this person show zero support for others , a absolute majority of the time . Classic narcissistic traits . "
— Makeupartist_315
10.“You’re either 100% with them or you’re the worst person who ever lived and are responsible for all of their misery.”
11.“My mom is actually diagnosed with NPD, not the popularized definition of being a narcissist. She was a nightmare to live with and still is a psychological assassin. A less nefarious but telling sign is that, in every story they retell, they are always the hero or the victim, but never the villain. Never. My mom couldn’t even resist blaming someone for her breast cancer; she claims the stress I caused her as a teenager is the reason. But she’s not the villain in that retelling if you confront her about it.”
" All of her stories are her telling someone some advice that worked out and she keep the day , her doing charity work or something that save someone ’s lifetime , her being the good / smart / funniest / most hardworking in a group circumstance , or it ’s a story about how someone else screw her over .
Another one that they show fair easily and early on is how they verbalise about others in relation to their usage . My female parent is entirely ' what have you done for me latterly ? ' both physically and emotionally . When my Dad choke , all she did was plain about what others were n’t doing for her when our family bent over rearward to help her . Nothing is ever enough . You do n’t visit enough , you do n’t serve me at my sign enough , you do n’t let me FaceTime my grandchild enough , etc . They see hoi polloi as being indebted to them and have this sense of entitlement towards the world . "
— moonphased239
12.“When people are uninterested in the conversation, then I mention a valuable skill I have, and their ears perk up. Only interested in talking to me if I can do something for them.”
— aroaceslut900
" narcissist lean to be very transactional . "
13.“Backhanded compliments.”
14.“I am the child of two narcissistic parents. Growing up, I was mostly a prop to make them look better to their ‘friends.’ Thankfully, I ended up being a disappointment to them by not being the popular kid, as they could not understand why I didn’t want to be a huge social person. They both use Facebook to brag and make themselves seem more important than they are. It’s exhausting.”
— No - Reaction-1240
15.“Very sociable, and quite likable upon first meeting, but they don’t have any close friends, or most friends don’t last too long.”
— Apollon_hekatos
" My ex - friend had a lot of friends . But he was the big , chronic cheater and prevaricator you would fulfil .
magnetic and enticing to mass who did n’t know him like I did . But when I say he had a circumstances of friends , they never go long .
Not because he would get get . I was on the face of it the only one who would hitch him and challenge him on his behavior .
But because he would social record hop from mathematical group to group just to gain from them .
He never really did consider them admirer . When his life hit stone bottom , he would always be alone and try on to hit me up .
I finally rejected him after he reach out for the 100th meter . I was always his fall guy cable when his life went to shit .
During a period of reflection , he admitted that he was a shitty person and that I merit more .
Thought he was unfeigned .
But he endure back to his old way real quick , and now he ’s the loneliest guy in the room . "
16.“When they have an ulterior motive for the ‘nice’ things they do. I had a boss who offered to take a sick employee home and was very caring and sweet about it. When they came back, I mentioned in passing that I thought that was really nice. They looked at me and deadpan said, ‘Why would I want to pay them to work twice as long to do a task as another employee?'”
17.“When it becomes clear they weren’t listening to me talk. My dad does this. He will sit quietly and wait for me to finish speaking, then say something on a completely different topic. That’s not listening, that’s waiting your turn to speak.”
— Lord_Shadowfire
18.“One thing I’ve noticed is when they want to control you, they project exactly what they are doing to you onto you. My abusive ex used to say i was a narcissist, manipulative, selfish bitch and often said that I was trying to gaslight him into feeling guilty about the things he did wrong to me.”
" They also bully you , and then when you defend yourself , they will act dupe . Once he said a joke that was really humiliating just to get a laugh from his syndicate , and when I confronted him about it , he started crying . "
— murxno
" Oh my god , yes . I was constantly accused of being a beguiler , because I made a admirer at university of the opposite sex , and when I was n’t directly being accuse , it was ' I ’m scared your gon na betray on me , ' despite me never having a story of cheating , or being a player , or anything of the variety .
Guess who ended up cheating . "
— CarpetPure7924
19.“Their tone of voice and facial expressions when they are interacting with someone they see as ‘lower’ than themselves in the social hierarchy. Most often, I see it with how they interact with children or people in the service industry.”
20.“Thinking any form of compromise is them bending over backwards or them sacrificing. Like, oh man, you guys all owe me cause I’m giving up my whole day to do not exactly what I want. When a compromise is made, we both don’t get 100% of what we want and meet in the middle.”
" Also , in a relationship or specifically start out , if anyone utilise the term ' I let you … ' That ’s a Brobdingnagian one . I let you do this thing you care , so you owe me now .
Probably the heavy one and easiest to recount quickly is if someone ca n’t be impress by anything or ca n’t give anyone credit for anything . They have to get hold something to foot asunder or amuse credit from anything cool they see , so multitude ca n’t guess anyone but them can do anything cool . "
— chumbucket77
21.And finally, “Going on and on about the important, wealthy, well-known people they know. The high-level positions they have held. Righto, then. Why are you here, talking to me?”
— Far - Vegetable-2403
