If there ’s one matter men have , it ’s the audacity .
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A bit ago, Iasked women in the BuzzFeed Communityto share the “final straw” moments they realized their marriage or relationship was over. Dating is a hellscape in the year 2025, and these stories seem only to validate that sentiment, TBH. While their responses made me want to gather my friends and egg these men’s houses (yes, even in this economy…it’s that serious), I’m so endlessly proud of these women for doing what was best for them and leaving these losers behind. So without further ado, please join me (in this rage and) in celebrating these strong-ass ladies:
1.“We had been married for 6 years when we had our daughter. The day after she was born, he came to the hospital, sat by my bed for a while, then looked at me and asked what was wrong with my stomach. I said nothing, and he proceeded to tell me how SICK I made him because my stomach was still big. A year later I showed him how sick I could make him…I left him and never looked back.”
2.“I was applying for a job at a community college near my hometown, about two hours from the city I was living in. My boyfriend at the time said, ‘I just don’t understand why you’re bothering, they’re not going to hire you.’ I had two Master’s degrees and a full-time job, and this grown man had his parents paying the rent on his apartment since he couldn’t work an actual job while trying to get his business off the ground. In the six months that we dated, I saw him work maybe three days. The rest of the time, he played video games.”
" The fact that he had so little respect for my education or natural endowment was the terminal for me . Oh , and I did n’t get that job … I come one at the vainglorious , more prestigious University in township . Now I ’m a frequent Guest Artist at the community college as my side hustle . "
— chelseajack
3.“My husband of over 10 years told me that he found dating-type activities (like going out to dinner, movies, etc.) boring unless there was a possiblity of sex afterward. I felt a dagger of ice shoot down my spine, and when it hit the bottom, my feelings for him were dead.”
— Anonymous
4.“My ex came to visit me when I was studying abroad for a semester in Europe. The night he arrived, he confessed to me in my dorm room after traveling thousands of miles to see me that his female cousin had always been jealous of our relationship and that she had ‘convinced him’ to film her masturbating a few weeks ago. Apparently, she was considering trying out pornography and wanted to ‘see’ how she looked on camera, so she asked him to film her, and he obliged. He also confessed to being attracted to her and told me they had kissed years prior.”
" Needless to say , we lost the spark in our sex living reasonably quickly after that , and I was no longer attracted to him . We broke up a few months month later after being together for almost five days . He and I still verbalize , but the Latinian language was never the same . His first cousin became an alien dancer and marry a rich former man , presumptively for his money . No one has heard from her since . "
5.“My husband had always been self-centered, but I tolerated it. Now, I have no idea why. One day, I went in for my annual mammogram. The doctor’s office called shortly after and stated I needed to get in right away; they had found a lump and I needed to have a biopsy. The following day, the doctor’s office called again and told me I had stage 2 breast cancer. I needed chemo and radiation. I called my husband and told him I had something important to talk to him about when I got home. When I was following him upstairs later that night to talk alone, tears began to flow down my face. He turned to me and asked what was wrong. I regained my strength and told him. He shrugged his shoulders, looked at me, and said, ‘Well if you die, then who is going to take care of me?'”
" I felt like he was worried about himself and not me . After treatment , I leave , and I have been malignant neoplastic disease - gratuitous ever since . "
6.“My last straw was learning that after four years of marriage, my husband had given me an STD. He denied that he had cheated on me, and instead insisted that I must have cheatedon himand gotten it! I realized then all of the lies, neglect, and verbal abuse from him was how the rest of the marriage was going to be, so I left him.”
7.“My (now ex) and I were goofing around — telling jokes, tickling each other, saying silly things. He said that my jokes were stupid (not in a mean way; he was saying they were silly in a loving, goofy way) and was laughing. In response to whatever silly comment he had made, we were both laughing, and I jokingly said, ‘You’re so stupid!’ in the same silly way he’d said to me. He immediately pushed me away from him, looked me dead in the eyes, and said, ‘You’re nothing. I went to a better school than you, got a better degree than you, have a better job than you. Everything I do is better. You’re nothing.'”
" I cry , showered off my tear , and left . If that ’s how you view me , then why be in a relationship with me ?
I knew he was unsafe as I was in the process of let my Ph.D. in behavioral neuroscience . "
— kathkathkath
8.“We had been married almost 20 years. I got in a car accident and a few days later, I was lying on the couch, crying. My neck hurt so much and I couldn’t lift my head. I asked him to please rub my neck, and he said no. When I asked him why he wouldn’t, he said he didn’t feel like it. That was it. A few years later, when we were divorced, I told him this was the breaking point that made me know I wanted a divorce. He looked at me with a humbled face, but I had to let him know he was the reason we were divorced.”
9.“The moment I was done was when this moron of a man screamed, ‘You are a woman! Know your place!’ during a ridiculous argument. I just felt it immediately, and when those words came out of his mouth, it was over. I really liked that man, but thank God he said it when he did, as we were looking at apartments together at the time.”
— elisaday
10.“I had a long-time boyfriend for about 8 years who I started going out with when I was 15. I thought everything was great with him until my mom mentioned that he only showed up on my pay day or when he wanted something. So, to test this, I decided not to contact him first and see what he would say and how long it would take for him to reach out first. He called me about a week and a half later. He didn’t say, ‘How are you?’ or anything; he straight up asked me what my mom was doing because he wanted a lift to a apparent job interview that was a 15-minute walk from where he was staying.”
" I broke up on the phone call , blocked him on everything , and told him not to contact me again , as I was done . He had the nerve to say I was dramatic and selfish ! Turns out he was staying at another miss ’s star sign and having all variety of party . He expend all his money on drugs , and that ’s why he had no money and only called me on my payday to get complimentary nutrient or fund his parties . "
11.“I ended up in the hospital two hours away for an emergency surgery after a failed surgery a few days prior. My husband didn’t like driving in large cities, so I was brought there from a local ER via ambulance. I was alone, heavily medicated, and scared I was going to die. My friends had to organize a ride home for me the next day. My husband was making a video update he posted on Facebook (without my knowledge or permission), and my friend was messaging him, trying to get him to call the hospital and let them know she was approved to pick me up. I never watched the video, but a few days after I got home, my husband complained about notification sounds going off “non-stop” in the beginning of his video because my friend was desperately trying to get in contact with him.”
" He was annoyed … that my supporter was trying to check that I was OK and had a style home from the hospital … where I ’d just had emergency wit operating theater . I thought I would suggest counseling after I was better until that instant . Then , I knew he would never be there when I needed him the most . "
12.“My last straw was when my husband of 10 years called me to pick him up from the bar 8 days post-emergency C-section. I was still suffering the effects of eclampsia. Our daughter was a preemie weighing just under four pounds, and he wanted me to bundle her up and drive out into the snow to pick him up at 2:00 in the morning.”
" When I did n’t and he had to walk home , he come in and physically pulled me out of layer and slammed me into the wall face - first . He was apprehend , I filed a protective order , and he has n’t step through my room access in 12 years . He still stalks me , harasses me , and confront me in public , but he has no mogul . He has 40 % detention of our girl , but they do n’t get along , so he never takes her . "
13.“My ex and I were together for over 3 years. During this time, he graduated with his Bachelor’s degree and started working as a teacher, which was his chosen career path. I was working towards my MBA and also experienced significant career growth, which had me traveling a lot for work. We’d already had many conversations about the fact that my chosen career path and his were drastically different, especially in terms of salary potential, but that it didn’t matter to me as long as we were both committed to the relationship and to contributing equally financially percentage-wise. He said he agreed but didn’t want to talk about it because it made him uncomfortable.”
" During a company - wide league in Vegas , I was given notice of a major packaging and was very excited to lionize when I got home . My friend and I croak out together to celebrate , and my ex showed up , pull me aside , and said , ' I ca n’t keep you because your promotion make me feel like a failure . ' He then said that it made him sense like less of a man because my earnings would be about double his . He necessitate me to not take the promotion and to stay in my current role . I told him utterly not , and I asked him to leave alone .
The next day , he amount to my house and state me he was crazy at me for asking him to leave . I had already packed up his clobber and tell him that I postulate a supportive partner who would celebrate my success with me and not sample to bring me down because of his own insecurities . I ended things right there and started in my new position a few days later . Through that position , I met my now hubby , who is the most supportive better half I could have ever dream of . team spirit of the news report : do n’t shrink yourself to make your partner sense magnanimous . "
14.“My last straw was not the constant cheating and lies that I found out about, but the silent treatment he loved to do as punishment, especially when I didn’t do anything wrong. On this particular day, him and I were lying down watching TV, and he mentioned that he had a hair appointment. His daughter, who was 6, chimed in and said, ‘Is that the same barbershop we went to before we went to Sarah’s (his mistress’s) house?’ Of course, he full-on denied it. When he saw my energy shift, he got really defensive and asked if I really believed his 6-year-old daughter over him.”
" I countered and said , ' Why would your OWN 6 - year - old girl consist about that ? ' At that point , I simply wanted illumination because , honestly , I was already halfway done with the family relationship . Instead of speaking to me about it , he give me the cold shoulder . It lasted for two hebdomad . After that , I was truly done . "
15.“The last straw was after four years. I’d moved about three hours away, and a friend pointed out that I drove three and a half hours every weekend to visit him, and he’d never made the effort to visit me because he ‘was afraid his car would get hit because it’s the city.’ He never visited, not once in the two years we were in a long distance relationship. Turns out, he was cheating during the week and on the weekends I couldn’t go down. Waste of four years of my life. I owe my friend a lot for pointing out his behavior.”
16.“It sounds so trivial, but the last straw for me was when we were eating lunch out together. We decided to split two entrees that sounded good to both of us — a hamburger and a shrimp po’boy. He didn’t order his hamburger without onions or even with them on the side. I hate onions, and I hate having to pick them off because the flavor remains on the food. I had the sudden realization that he simply didn’t care about me or what I wanted. I know he didn’t forget — he admitted that when I asked. He just didn’t think it was a big deal. It was 6+ years of everything that mattered to me, small or not, being ‘no big deal.'”
17.“I was in a long-term marriage and realized that I never meant anything to my husband. I finally confronted him that I had proof of his affairs. He looked at me and said, ‘Yes, I behaved badly, but it is really your fault because you’re the only one I lie to.’ I wasn’t buying into any of this. He got so angry that he packed his bags and left. The best gift he ever gave me. He actually thought that I was going to let him come back. NOPE!”
18.“During supper one night, my now ex-husband used the n-word in front of our children and my best friend. I stayed with him through his infidelities, multiple job losses, and an arrest, but that one word was the catalyst. It was like a curtain came down on the marriage. I took the kids and moved out a couple of weeks later.”
— heididover2
19.“The last straw for me was when I cut my hair from my hips to just above my shoulders. It was somewhere strong of two feet of hair, and my husband didn’t notice until I pointed it out a week later. That’s when I made my exit strategy. I left my ring on the counter and my stuff was gone a week later. He didn’t even try to fight it. He simply didn’t care anymore.”
20.“I had been dating my ex for 6 years, and we lived together for 5. There were so many different instances of disrespect and neglect, from telling me 10 minutes before he was leaving to go to a different state for the weekend (this happened multiple times, and we had shared responsibilities), to telling me, ‘Shut the fuck up, I wasn’t talking to you’ in front of a group of friends. The last straw was when he moved his friend into the basement of the house we shared without asking or even telling me. It was during the pandemic, so I was working from home, and one day while I was working at my computer, his friend just started bringing in boxes down into the basement.”
" I asked my ex why he did n’t consult me before making this decision , and he said , ' Because I knew you would say no . ' So he sound in front and did it anyway , even though he already knew it was something that would make me unhappy . I break up with him not long after . We still had a calendar month or so leave on our letting , so we proceed to live in the same house together for a short amount of time ( with his friend living in the basement ) . Before I formally moved out , he invited yet another protagonist to come live there . I screw age does n’t equal maturity , but this man was in his mid - thirties at the time . "
21.“My last straw with my ex-husband (after over 10 years of marriage) was finding out that he’d secretly opened another credit card and piled thousands of dollars of debt onto it without making payments. It wasn’t the first time he’d done this exact thing — it was the third, actually. I previously had to take on a substantial amount of credit card debt when he was unemployed for almost a year (he voluntarily quit his job without a backup and refused to apply to anything that wasn’t exactly what he wanted) while I was forced to pay for EVERYTHING on my <30k salary.”
" I had begged him to address his expenditure problems and his shopping dependence , but he never did . He keep loan MY money to the great unwashed without asking ( mostly his family phallus ) or running out to get me ' a fiddling goody . ' It did n’t help that it was also a sexless marriage , and I was more of a parent than a better half anyway . incur out about the last credit card , my total trunk went limp , and I palpate numb . I literally could n’t see a future for myself where I was doing any better than argufy by with someone who so clearly did not prise fiscal security the way that I do .
It ’s not been easy doing it on my own , and I ’m not financially consummate by any stretch , but I know my account is never overdrawn , and I bonk my notice are paid . That think the earth to me . "
22.“I worked for a school district for five and a half years. My assignment was toxic, and I ended up being fired on Valentine’s Day because I wouldn’t do extra work that wasn’t required of my colleagues. I had to pack up my whole desk in front of a vice principal, someone from HR, and a union rep. I wasn’t able to grab the flowers my husband had sent me because I was escorted out and the boxes were placed in my car for me. I arrived home, relieved to be out of the situation. My husband looked at me and asked where the flowers were. I explained how I wasn’t able to grab them because of the situation and how stressful it was (the HR person had spent 30 minutes yelling at me). He told me how horrible I was for forgetting them and how much I disrespected him and our relationship. He stopped speaking to me as a punishment. I knew that was it.”
23.“He came downstairs high on what was the millionth relapse he had had during our relationship and told me I was too fat, he wasn’t attracted to me, and he felt like he had just settled. I pretended things were fine and found a roommate to replace him in the home I bought for us.”
" Two years later , I ’m date the smartest , most wonderful Isle of Man , and could n’t be happier . Turns out he was n’t the one that square off — I was . "
24.And finally, “My long-term boyfriend took off work to take me to the doctor to remove a pre-cancerous lesion. He bitched because he hadn’t slept well. When we got home, he went right into the bedroom and was snoring almost instantly. I went to the couch so I could get some rest. When I woke up a few hours later, I asked him to help me warm up some lunch. He kept putting it off, and I waited for over two hours. I was the one having surgery, and the whole day, it was all about him! I woke him up and threw him out of our apartment and never looked back!”
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