" Special shoutout to men who visualise me in uniform and straightaway accused me of steal gallantry . "
Recently, weaskedwomen who have been belittled by men at work to share their stories, and though strides have been made toward women’s rights and access, it’s very clear there’s further to go.
Here’s what they said:
1.“I have walked into a courtroom in a suit and checked in for a case and overheard the judge say to the other side, ‘counsel for so and so is here,’ and had the other (male) attorney look around the room, right past me, and go, ‘Where is he?'”
" I also do initial screener call for intake clients ( sound aid ) . They get an email telling them the attorney will be reach them at such and such time . Several time a week , however , I call an intake node , and they answer , discomfited and go , ' waitress , they told me I was going to see with a attorney , ' think I am a legal assistant or secretary . I ’m always like , ' Yup . You are . And here I am , call you at the very time of your lawyer appointment . '
My male paralegal is regularly assumed to be the lawyer when he reach people on my cases , even when they know my female person - identifiable name . Have also had multiple male lawyer back when we hand - save orders pre - COVID distinguish me some variation of , ' you may do the monastic order , dearest , girls have dainty script . ' "
— lawyerlady
2.“I was a carpenter and I’m female. I was up in the rafters of a house and adding joist hangers. A man in a BUSINESS SUIT walks in, looks up at me, and says, ‘Can I help you?'”
" I appear down and say , ' Do you live how to do what I am doing ? ' He say , ' No … ' and I pause and then say , ' Then why do you think you’re able to help me ? ' "
— awfulgoose70
3.“Back when I worked customer-facing tech support and computer repair, I had a customer come in needing a computer dropped off for a quote. I was still in the repair room so I hustled out to just take care of it. I walk out with the man’s computer and find out what happened and make the quote to him. THIS MAN. He looks me dead in the eye and says, ‘I’ll wait for the technician.'”
" I look him dead in the eye and in cold blood said , ' Sir . I AM the technician . Would you like to leave your computer to be repaired ? ' Whew was it fun to watch him just puncture visibly and quietly say ' yes , please ' to me . Just ‘cause I have boobs does n’t intend I do n’t also have a mentality , cocksucker ! "
— cailian13
4.“I was a financial advisor, the only female out of 60. During a meeting, the president asked me in front of everyone to step out and, ‘Go grab a cup of coffee because I didn’t need to hear this.’ I was shocked.”
" All the adviser looked at me as I pull up stakes unconnected . I at last asked everyone what the blaze they were discussing in the get together . They said the troupe torment insurance ! ! ! So it looked like I had complained which I did n’t , it was a dame in another department . That space was round the bend hahaha . "
— uniquecloud17
5.“I drove a monster truck (I am small in stature), and I would put it on display at events. As males, young and old, would come up, they’d ask me who the driver was, and I’d say ‘me.'”
They ’d either go silent or give me an atta ’ girl , or they would in a flash necessitate , ' We need to see you get up in there . ' Like I had to PROVE I actually drove the goddamn motortruck . "
— laughingcan64
6.“Shoutout to every man who saw my DAV tag and asked me which branch my father/husband served in, then went on to balk in disbelief when I told them I’m the veteran, full stop.”
— CourtesyFlush
7.“I was a firefighter for 25 years, structural firefighting, hazmat, confined space, extrication, driving the apparatus, worked my way up the ranks to be chief of my fire company for six years, and also was a fire instructor, fire inspector, and was on the state fire commission writing state code.”
" When I mention this to people , every single fucking time , to this Clarence Shepard Day Jr. , they assume I was an EMT only , because girls are leave to do first attention and nothing else . "
— shelleye
8.“A long time ago, I was friends with a married couple (male/female), and they were both ministers. They were guest officiants at a church. The woman delivered the message, and the husband assisted with the service. After the service, they stood at the door and greeted people. A couple of people told her she gave a nice ‘talk’ — heaven forbid they acknowledge it was a sermon.”
" BUT the worst was when a distaff parishioner came through the line , say nothing to the woman , shake up mitt with the hubby , and told him HE did a good chore discourse ! ! Things like that are why I ’m no longer in organized religion . "
— angrypunk14
9.“I’m a retired Air Force Officer (Navigator) and so is my husband. My husband and I both have Air Force license plates.”
" When we are together , people give thanks my hubby for his military service and walk past me . Even when I ’m alone in my car — no one says a word . They accept the plate is because of my hubby ’s service . "
— susanbrowned
10.“In my early 20s, I was in a management position in a warehouse. Of course, most of my subordinates were men. At first, the major complaint was that I was ‘obviously’ getting by on my looks and sleeping my way to the top.”
" And then when I establish them that I could lift as much , eruct as loud , and curse as eloquently as they could , the Modern major complaint was that I was ' unladylike . ' We ca n’t crashing win . "
11.“I’m an engineer, and I grew up in construction. When I purchased a foreclosure and remodeled it, my baby boomer Caucasian HVAC repairman, shocked by my remodeling work, told me at least 60 times I should have been a boy.”
" He could not kibosh enjoin it . I told him my dad was very lofty I am a girl with these talents . "
— Late July
12.“I was asked to take notes in a meeting of equals where I was the only woman. I was called ‘dear’ by an older man in a meeting. I was asked to bring the coffee pot in by a man in a meeting of equals. Older men, in particular, only know women as wives, daughters, and secretaries. They can become very uncomfortable with businesswomen.”
" They do n’t know how to pretend . They probably experience they have to find out their language and be heedful not to order off - coloring jape , and they do n’t care it . It ’s not unlike now . Fifty class later , when I played golf with my hubby and his law spouse , they pretend uncomfortable . I can swear like a straw hat and express joy at their off - color prank , but there is still a good sense of tautness . I trust it ’s because they know they postulate to watch themselves in subject their jokes take a racial , anti - women , or sexually inappropriate tone . Their guy cable friends would n’t diss them for it , but they ’re pretty sure I would . They are right . "
— furrygem13
13.“I spent 35+ years as a special education paraprofessional working directly with students who had a broad variety of needs. Continuing my own education to stay current with new and innovative ways to help my students’ progress was vital. There truly isn’t time or space to fully explain what the job entails! When people referred to me as ‘a teacher’s aide,’ I eventually started to speak up.”
" A teacher ’s aide is a pencil , computer , library quoin or Smart Board , and tools such as those . Special education paraprofessional . That ’s the statute title that define the problem . "
— deliciousdragon31
14.And finally, “I’m a mortician. Of the four other morticians I work with, only one is male; he works at the same location as I.”
" I have been working in this industry for nearly 10 years and have served countless families multiple meter ; they know me . But since he returned from retirement , I have been confused as the secretary more fourth dimension than I care to count . He was retired through COVID-19 , and he did n’t have a clue what it was like to like for ( prep , arrange , and service readiness ) 5 + families in a day , six days a hebdomad , but I ’m the secretaire . "
— dianareyna13
